Trying to motivate yourself can be hard. After all, we’re constantly surrounded by things that desperately try to drag our attention away; and yes, sometimes we cave in to those distractions, and that my friend is called procrastination. An old friend of mine that I know all too well. She sure can be an evil wench.
But she’s not going to beat you because I have your back. I’m here to get you motivated so you can go out into the world and kick some ass.
What’s your why power?
First things first, what’s your why? What do you want to be motivated for and why? When it comes to goals, I believe that using your why power is extremely overlooked, even though it gets thrown around a lot. Maybe you want to start exercising and eating healthy so you can feel better in yourself, but that chip shop you just walked past sure does smell good. Maybe you want to write a book so you can get it published and write for a living, but you’d much rather just lay on the sofa and watch a film, but just one more film and then you’ll start, right?
If you can focus on your why, and I mean really envision what it is that you want, then that should be enough to get you motivated; or it should at least add a little spark to your inner fire. If it does, then don’t waste it, get started on what you want to do, now. That spark will soon die out and you’ll be back to square one, so go. However, if that hasn’t quite done the trick, then move onto the next point.
Shake what your mumma gave ya
Don’t worry, even I’m cringing at the heading. So you have your why power. You know what you want to be motivated for and why. It doesn’t matter if that didn’t work, I’ve still got lots of different things for you to try. All that matters is that you’re here and you’re trying, I applaud you. Hopefully the previous point added a spark to your flame and now you just need some extra fuel to add, that’s where this point comes into play. It’s time to let out your inner child. Go grab a hairbrush, put on some feel good songs (or throwback songs, whatever gives you that fuzzy feeling inside) and I want you to dance around your room and belt out those songs as loud as you can. This does absolute wonders for me. Sometimes it’s just fun to be goofy. No one is watching you, forget that anybody else in the world even exists, and just be silly for 10 minutes. If I ever want to get motivated quickly, then this is what I will do. So simple, yet so effective. If you’re not feeling it, pop the song on first, and if it’s still not working then try a different song. I always like to go for old Disney channel songs, like Camp Rock or High School Musical.
Absorb motivation from motivational people
If you want to get motivated, and nothing I’ve said so far has worked, then surround yourself with motivational people. If you can’t do that in real life, do it online. The one person I can always rely on, online, to help me feel motivated is Kalyn Nicholson. She’s a Canadian creator on YouTube and her content never fails to make me feel motivated, so check her out, she helped me turn my life around last year and I’ll forever be grateful to her for that.
Ask a friend to hold you accountable
Tell a friend, partner or family member what you’re trying to do, this works best when it comes to big tasks, and ask them to keep checking up on you. When you know that somebody else knows about it and that they are going to be asking you how you’re getting on, it’s going to make you get shizz done because you don’t want to tell them week after week that you’re in the same place as the last time they checked in on you. Even just knowing that others know what you’re doing can really give you the kick that you need.
I know how counter-productive this sounds, but hear me out. As I write this, I’m tired (after all, I’ve been up since 4am) and I can feel how much my body and mind needs a break; I can just feel the lack of energy inside of me, I feel exhausted, but I don’t want a break. How could anybody not want a break? I never thought I’d be one of those people that could be productive so often that I’d forget and not want to take breaks, but I have. Don’t get me wrong, I’m so happy that I have become one of those people, but I do need to take some time out to chill whether I want to or not, I know it will do me better in the long run. I’ve been working so hard at my job and with getting everything sorted for my blog re-launch, that I’ve just gotten carried away. If you’re reading this now then I would’ve re-launched my blog a couple of weeks ago and I’m definitely taking another break when it’s all done! I did not take a break, but I will, probably.
Sometimes we get so carried away with life that we forget to just have some time to do whatever we want, it will help you feel refreshed and so much more motivated. Even scheduling a day to have a rest day can do wonders for you, I’ve planned mine for this Thursday and I am so excited.
Breaks are vital for keeping your energy levels up, which then makes you more motivated. So take one now or at least schedule one in for the next few days. Then come back with a clear head and get to it!
Think about how good it will feel when it’s done.
Not much of an explanation needed for this one! Close your eyes and imagine that you’ve just finished what you want to do and think about how damn good it will feel.
Make it as convenient for yourself as possible
Put your gym clothes on after work, lay them out for the morning. Switch your TV off by the mains so you aren’t tempted. Lay out your notebooks on your desk and leave your laptop open. Sign up to a gym that is on your way to/from work. Eat your breakfast where you’re going to work at home. Figure out what stops you from being productive and figure out a way to combat it!
Next to drinking more water, getting exercise is probably the most common piece of advice you’ll generally hear, but there’s a reason for it: it works. When you exercise (this can range from having a sweaty hour gym session to going for a swim or walking outside for 10 minutes), it clears your head and just generally makes you feel happier and accomplished, all things that you want when trying to feel motivated.
But Meghan, what if I’m trying to get motivated to exercise? Well don’t fret, I’ve got you covered…
JUST DO IT
You can’t always just sit around and wait for motivation to hit you, sometimes it just doesn’t come no matter how hard you try. Push yourself to just do it and get it done, it’s probably the best thing that you can do to feel motivated. A trick that I’ve learnt is to say to yourself, ‘okay, I’ll set a timer for 10 minutes and if I still don’t feel motivated to do it after that time, then I don’t have to carry on’. Or for the gym example ‘I’ll just put on my gym clothes and do a few sets’. What’s most likely to happen is that after that ten minutes or after those few sets, you’re going to want to carry on and finish. It’s one of my go to ways to getting motivated.
If all else fails, look inwards
So you’ve tried everything and you still can’t motivate yourself to do the task at hand, then it may be time to turn inwards to see if there is a deeper issue that’s going on inside of you. Maybe you’re trying to start a big project but don’t feel good enough to do it. Maybe you’re trying to get into fitness but feel so self conscious that you don’t even want to start, or maybe it’s something deeper than that. Normally if you can’t motivate yourself, then there’s feelings buried under the surface that you need to reach and deal with. Sit in silence and see what emotions come up; don’t push them aside, let what comes come. Or get your diary, or any bit of paper, and write everything and anything that comes to your head.
If you’re open to it, eventually feelings will come. If you want to cry, scream or punch a pillow, DO IT. Let whatever it is come out of your system so you can work through it, and hopefully you should come out the other side feeling lighter and ready to kick your goals list ass.
Don’t get angry at yourself if you’re struggling to get motivated, it happens. After all, we’re only human. But hopefully something that I have said resonates with you and helps you in feeling motivated. You can do anything that you set your mind to, no matter what you or anyone else thinks. You’re capable of more than you know.
If you have found tips of your own over the years, and are willing to share your secrets, then drop a comment below and help somebody else. I hope you’re all well. Nothing in life is permanent. So if now isn’t your time, soon it will be. You’ve just got to have faith.
A hui hou. until we meet again